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Friday, 31 July 2015

Expose Yourself

I could easily be one of the 'Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon' stunts crew members (anyone still recalls that movie?)

Showing off, talking about my feelings in public, putting me in the centre of attention - these statements couldn't be more far away from a true definition of me. Yet, I write this blog. And yet, I decided to put up with the jumping LookAtMe theme so many people join, more or less successfully. 

Regardless of the fact that writing a blog is not yet still done by every single (and married) member of the public, worldwide, many of us do try to shine. And put the best possible set of behaviour techniques on show. Including posting positive images, and life snapshots on Facebook.

You would rarely see the image of someone feeling extremely angry, or very annoyed with someone they usually love, are happy, or chill out with - unless it aims at shocking others.

My point is, you post about a positive side of you.
While we know this is not the whole truth.
Only the ones who know you well (or live next to you in a multi-flat block) know more about you.

Fakiness surrounds us. And so called social media, which are meant to connect us, end up with promoting that fakiness...

I'm not an exception.
I write about many things happening to me, and around me.

But I don't tell it all.
No one does.

Does that make me a truly honest person though? ...

Thursday, 30 July 2015

Reading Habits Tag

I've been tagged by a lovely Nicola, author of an ever amazing Book Bunny blog (check this out, you won't regret it;), and this is quite an exciting experience for me. I'm going to talk about me - nothing new there, I am well aware of that, yet it's going to be about me with a twist, as it is books-oriented... 

Questions and answers, here we go:

Do you have certain places at home for reading?
Yes, well, if my husband is reading it - he might ;) - he will know the answer to this already. You see, there is a chair, nothing special about its construction, or in fact any super comfy features... But it is placed in a focal part of our living room. You can read and still be in the whirl... Or at least pretend to be...

Bookmark or random piece of paper?
Neither. It is usually something I connect to in a certain moment of time: a ticket from a cinema (when was the last time I went to see a movie?), an exhibition ticket (does a 6-12 years old 'Against Captain's Orders' counts?), or a lovely letter my SuperGirl made for me - it's nice to have something that really matters, reveals good memories, or simply makes you feel emotional, and less irritated with little things. Even more positive when you're reading.

Can you just stop reading or do you have to stop after a chapter/ a certain amount of pages?
I would like to think of myself as loyal, therefore I try to do my best to finish a chapter. Never thought of reading in terms of number of pages, though. Considering the fact I just read a book in one go last night, up until 3am, ekhm), it looks like my loyalty exceeds my expectations. Sometimes.

Do you eat or drink while reading?
I would very much like to say no, but the fact is I do. Try to stick to my favourite apples whenever possible. To make it a little bit more healthy...

Multitasking: Music or TV while reading?
Distractions are part of my everyday life, and I managed to make others believe I am listening while actually I am more focused on what I'm reading. Meaning, I do understand when they say something, I even get the content; I am just not always able to articulate a reasonable answer... Music always welcome. TV non existent therefore no such issue:))

One book at a time or several at once?
If a book is a page-turner, all the others sit tight and wait for their turn. If a book requires more thoughtful approach, I tend to procrastinate - no need to pretend I don't - and reach for a lighter counter-option. I have a logical explanation to that, obviously: this is just to balance my thoughts more effectively;) 

Reading at home or everywhere?
Do you remember that chair:)?

Reading out loud or silently in your head?
Yes, if it's for my little ones, I read out loud. But I love to have that comfort of reading just for me, and wander to another reality...

Do you read ahead or even skip pages?
That would be cheating, and actually the worst type - as I would be unfaithful to myself. It happened to me once, or twice, though, that I left the book unfinished. And then yes, I skipped a whole good chunk of the content, just to see how it ended. But it's not worth it in general.

Breaking the spine or keeping it like new?
Usually I read for pleasure, and comfort; therefore if breaking is the only option, I will go for it. But I like to see a book as good as new when I finish reading it.

Do you write in your books?
No. Not even a single note in a paper book, or on a Kindle version. Which is not that bad, as then I usually can read the same book twice, and since there are no notes, I don't recall the plot that much:)))

Well, enough about me then. For a while...
If any of the following book readers, which I'm inspired by and look up to, would like to spare a minute, or two, and answer the same list of questions, I'd be honored:))) (No pressure though)

Wednesday, 29 July 2015

Decision fatigue

Recently my husband and I, we were discussing an interesting issue - well, it was and is interesting to us;) - which usually comes up when a decision needs to be made.

I'm sure I mentioned that before, at least once.

I'm terrible with choices.
They scare me, haunt me, don't let me sleep - yet I happen to master procrastination to the full when I need to make them.

 Actually, it looks like there's a reason. The more decisions, both small and big, minor and important, short- and long term ones we have to make, the more fed up we become. Each next choice we need to make makes us more tired, and eventually: it's much more difficult to decide.

While me being afraid of decisions also proves the fact I'm not very good with changes in general, it might help to know the above 'scheme' our mind seems to go through. And 'act accordingly'.

I've never thought of decision making processes as something limited, since we utilize circa 7-8% of our brain. But yes, it makes sense - there is a dedicated and finite space available for us each day to make up our minds. And the way we use it, and whether we prioritize a list if decisions to be made - it's totally up to us.

 Therefore, from last week I started planning. Little things at first. Including what I would wear, what I would eat for breakfast, how I would start my day - the first 1-2 hours.

I'm amazed with the results:) it's so refreshing to be able to do minor tactical things flawless, and without actually having to think about them.

Equally surprising was another thing, much more important - it was a little bit easier for me to actually sort strategic things out.
It was still far from seamless.
But I wasn't stuck as usual with the 'what shall we do, business-wise, in the next 12 months' idea. 

Funny big little discoveries of mine - planning small helps make big decisions ... :)

Friday, 24 July 2015

Friendship - the latest definition

It was one of the last schooldays this term; crispy morning light, air still fresh before the sun hits with warmth and glow...

We were discussing friendship on our way to school, when my 6-year old said:
- It's a bit like love.
- Yes, it is a bit like that - I said, as I didn't know where this conversation was going, and was afraid to spoil it with my semi-psychological reviews.
- It's all maths, too - she added - but not numbers, the other part...

It took me a while (I was not the brightest that day...;), before I suggested:
- Logic?
- Yes, that part. It's all logic - friendship.
- What about emotions then? - this was becoming more interesting than many personal development seminars you find about these days.
- Well, that too. But you either like someone, he likes you back, and you're friends. Or, he likes you, you don't, you're not friends. It's simple.

True. Someone doesn't need a training on self-confidence... And some other person does. But that's another story.

Wednesday, 8 July 2015

All the colours

There has been an increase of tolerance being shown of, thrown easily onto FB profiles of people, and so on. I get the concept, have nothing against it, just hope all the joyful participants are truly ok with the concept of gender equality.
I call myself a tolerant person, too. Yet I find the subject personal, too personal to share with all the people. Including my friends from social media, and my friends in real life. I think it is conformity, and honesty - two concepts that stuck with me since childhood. You wanted to join a gang, you had to act like the gang. If you lied, you were dead to them.
Teaching your child sincerity, and understanding the differences is one of the most challenging values I find in today's world. It is so easy to hide behind prejudices, laugh at someone's inability to do something the way someone else does. Since I'm kind of involved into beauty-related concepts, it is even more visible. People laugh at your uneven feline flick, point fingers at your uneven skin tone, make 'funny' jokes about your weight, your look, your outfit...
How to explain your little ones this is just the outside? That inside is what matters after all? How to stay firm, not naive, how to survive in today's jungle?:))
So difficult, especially when I'm the one who struggles with these in the first place...