It hit me today. What I need, and what all need is Patience for Parents in infinite containers.
Even when you're not the one with the kids, it helps. A lot. It makes you see things differently. Enjoy the moments. See through.
Patience is something that can change time. Incredible but true: if you find the time in yourself to get to know what is behind yet another tantrum, yet another moaning, yet another angry conversation... If you're patient, you will get to the bottom of things. You will get to the truth.
And then it is up to you to decide whether you want to help, or leave it all. And go.
But at least you know.